While watching a tiger at a zoo and wondering how the tiger was so strong yet it lifted no external weight, Charles Atlas developed the idea of Dynamic Tension. A self-resistance exercise method that pits muscle against muscle.
Continue to push a kettlebell above your head and there will come a point at which you will lose a large amount of shoulder stability. Push the kettlebell while pulling your shoulder blade down and you create tension. In creating tension, you also create stability.
The more you push and pull the stronger you become.
Perhaps we should not move away from people who push and pull. Instead, we should engage them so that we can find our own position. The place we feel strong and stable.
Who is providing your dynamic tension so that you can grow?