“You can have whatever you want, just not that.” That, whatever “that” is, is out of reach. Only the elite, the 1%, can have “that.”
It pays to be clear on what “that” is and if “that” is really what you want.
Do “elite” coaches have the “x factor” because of luck, benefit of the doubt, or skill? Becuase, if it’s a skill, then it’s open to you, you can have “that.” For all else, see luck, and you’re right you might not always get “that.”