High stake poker players have their eyes on the prize but first, need to win their hand.
Parents want to know what everyone else is doing but first need to focus on the development of their own kids.
Phil Helmuth mitigates risk by turning up to high stake poker tournaments “staked”. Outside investors put the money up and share the winnings. By showing up “staked” he is simply controlling how he shows up.
You don’t need to be fearless to be a fear(less) parent. You do need to find a way to control how you show up. And that takes work.