Why desire change when the life you have built for yourself works just fine?
We remain stuck for good reason. Our social structures and worldviews are built to support our status quo. Any change will disrupt status and likely not in a good way.
Wanting people to change is not nearly as helpful as creating a connection for them.
Connecting with people who accept and appreciate us works. It works because our reference points change as our exposure to ideas, information, and experiences changes. And when we connect to people who accept and appreciate us, we suffer no loss in status within the group.
When people open themselves up to new connections, they have done the hard part. The question is have you done the hard part of accepting them into the group?