If you have ever had a well-meaning family member or friend ask after you. You will know how it feels when they push their anxiety onto you, rather than improve their (or your) understanding of what you are working on.
This brings me to my point.
Coaching, teaching, and the business of education when driven by agendas, not by learning can leave you feeling pretty shit about yourself.
My current muse is to share directives, agenda, and direction of travel up front. Engagement is a choice and the work is to edit the agenda until successful. Deciding what success is collectively and or individually.
Perhaps it’s time we took the time to embrace our agendas.