When we ask someone a question like. Why do you do the things you do? You might get an answer like “I don’t know.”
Why did you pass the ball there? Give the ball away here? “I don’t know, I just did.”
What do you want to do? “Nothing”
You get the idea.
Describing what you don’t want helps to describe what you do want, and that comes with experience. A life well-lived.
Perhaps better answers come from better questions and a life well lived.